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In my heart of hearts it’s Stefan and Elena forever. What Stefan did for Elena was the ultimate act of love. How can it not be Stefan and Elena?! It’s tragic love, but it’s love.

Kevin Williamson, January 2018 (source)

Kevin Williamson: The thing that works so well about this show is that’s a serialized mythology genre love story. It’s about these two lost souls, these two dead souls, one human and one a vampire, who are together, their love for each other brings them back to life. I mean that’s epic. (source)

Julie Plec: When you’re telling a love story, the great love stories of all time are always about people who are attracted who are polar opposites. It’s about, “Who is that person who caught my eye across the room, and what is it about that person, why do they seem so different and why do I find myself so drawn to them? What is it about them that fills me up from the inside?”
When you have a love story that’s this powerful, and then you throw this genre element into it, with the great guy across the room who’s moody and brooding and sexy and dangerous, and also happens to be a vampire, then you end up with stories you can tell for days! (source)

Julie Plec: We always said in the pilot it’s a girl who feels dead inside and a boy who is dead inside and how they bring each other back to life. (source)

Bob Levi: For the pilot and the TV series to work, the relationship between Elena and Stefan had to be magic. I said to myself “This is phenomenal”. There is real chemistry between Paul Wesley and Nina Dobrev. (source)

Julie Plec: It’s the scene where Elena was running in the cemetery. And he’s there, out of nowhere. And the sun is just hitting him so perfectly and his eyes are so beautifully green and he’s just staring at her and she’s staring up in him… Kevin and I both went “He is our guy, oh my god he is our guy!” (source)

Kevin Williamson: The look on her face, the way they connected in this moment, that’s what worked for me. (source)

“This show is cemented in a love triangle over the whole run of the series,” notes exec producer Julie Plec, “and right now we’re very much embedded in the pure love [of] Stefan and Elena.” (source)

Kevin Williamson: This show is always going to be about Stefan and Elena. It has to be. They’re soulmates. (source)

Kevin Williamson: One of the most important things Julie and I wanted to do this season is cement the love between Stefan and Elena. It’s that love story that will be the anchor of this entire show. We have to earn that. (source)

Paul: In the books… Stefan & Elena, their love is just so important. (source)

Paul: I just want [Stefan] in the end to find his love, that’s all he cares about. Of course I want him to end up with Elena. Cause I have to, that’s all I can hope for. Elena is his true love. (source)

Is Stefan 100% good?
Paul: No, absolutely not. No way. He’s a vampire. He is constantly struggling with the dark side. He’s constantly eager, and he has a need to feed on human blood. It’s always there. It’s not easy for him not to do it. I’m making Stefan have anger and a temper, but also passion, love and tenderness toward Elena. He’s vicious and violent. He loves her and he’ll die for her, but he’s a violent creature. (source)

The day you have sex, does she have to worry about you biting her?
Paul: I absolutely think that it’s something that is constantly forefront in Stefan’s mind. He always wants to suck her blood. What makes this stuff interesting and intriguing is that he loves her, he’s in love with her, but he also can’t help but have this need to feed on her. (source)

Paul: That protective, nurturing, endless love that they have and the passion for, like with my character for Elena, but is also infused with this desire to suck on her neck and feed on her and kill her because it’s in my nature so I think people are fascinated by that. (source)

“At first Elena has no idea that he’s a blood sucker,” explains Nina laughing. “They have an attraction that neither of them can explain but she just goes about life and then things start to go crazy.” (source)

Paul: My character, he’s been like dead for hundreds of years and then this girl is one thing that wakes him up and he’s alive, so it’s like he’s experiencing love for the first time… (source)

Paul: Elena is his only reason for living at this point, because he doesn’t really have any hope or joy, so when he sees this girl it’s the one thing in his life that gives him purpose. (source)

Paul: Stefan sort of lives for her. You have to kind of think about Stefan’s mind set, it’s very extreme. (source)

Paul: He’s so protective and in love with Elena that, if her life was in stake or if her life was jeopardized, I think he would take a human life for her. (source)

Paul: I’m thinking ‘why am I in love with this young girl?’ and then I’m like ‘why wouldn’t I be in love with this young girl?’ Her innocence is amazing. Think about it. I’m 160 years old, her innocence is so endearing and amazing to me. I cherish it. (source)

Paul: At the beginning it’s not a triangle, Elena and I just have this passion and love that is undying. Stefan is so desperately in love with Elena he would die for her. He would do anything for her; nurture, care and protect her, even jump in front of a bus for her. But at the end of the day, when he sees her he wants to bite her neck and suck on her blood which would kill her. (source)

Paul: He’s in love with Elena; that’s his true love. No doubt about it. (source)

Paul: It’s really the story of this sort of triangle in a sense, but really actually more so the love between my character and Elena.

Julie Plec: The bottom line is that Elena and Stefan are the true epic love story of the show. Damon is the third point of the triangle. (source)

Paul: I think Stefan’s the good guy, but my biggest interest is Elena and her love. He lives for Elena. Without her, he’s nothing. If he loses her to Damon, he will resort to something else. (source)

Paul: If Damon and Elena get close, yes I’m gonna get very jealous. I don’t know what’s gonna happen with that. But I think Elena’s true love is Stefan. Speaking from an objective place, I really believe that it’s a true love. And as charming and good looking and infatuated as Damon is, I think it would be more a fling. (source)

How are you feeling at this point about which guy you think she’s more seeded with?
Nina: It makes more sense for Elena to be with Stefan because he’s not a killer and he’s not evil and they complement each other. And Damon is just so all over the place. You never know what he’s going to do at any given time. And that’s not what Elena is. (source)

Do you think that Stefan and Elena will end up together, are they soulmates?
Paul: If you ask me what I would like, of course I can’t imagine otherwise. Damon is nothing but a distraction from the true romance. (source)

Nina: We want to make it as real as possible, and as genuine, and we want to make everyone fall in love with these characters and believe the love story. That’s what it’s about. It’s about Stefan and Elena’s undying love. (source)

Do you feel protective of your relationship with Elena on the show ? I mean, do you think she belongs with Stefan?
Paul: Of course, it’s not even a remote option to think otherwise. I think there is no other place for her. (source)

Nina: Who knows what could happen in the future, but right now, it’s all Stefan all the time for Elena. She will do anything for him.
Elena is very loyal, has high morals and whatever she does, it’s for good. She’s nothing like Katherine. She’s not conniving and she would never do anything to hurt Stefan. (source)

Paul: There’s not anybody and there’s no human that is closer to Stefan than Elena, I think that’s obvious. She really accepts him and loves him for who he is and with all this sort of baggage that he brings, which is obviously just tremendous. (source)

Paul: There was a moment where we were kissing intensely and my face just started vamping, and I hid it from her and she turned my cheek to herself and said “no please, it’s beautiful” and touched my face. And it was so intimate and special, that’s the Stefan-Elena relationship. They no longer hide anything from each other. It’s his greatest insecurity, it’s being a vampire, it’s the thing that he runs away from the most, he’s ashamed of it. So the fact that she can accept that and think it’s beautiful, to Stefan there is no other closer form of intimacy for him. (source)

Paul: I think that Stefan is a true romantic. He lives for love, and it’s so genuine. He would do anything for Elena. But that said, I think he’s kind of a bad boy himself. He’s a vampire, he’s got a bad side. (source)

Paul: I have my eyes on Elena only, she’s my love.

Who do you think Stefan loves more, Elena (Nina Dobrev) or his long lost love, Katherine?
Paul: Elena. I answer that with no hesitation.
Why do you say that?
Paul: Because he realizes after meeting Elena that he never loved Katherine.
You think Stefan never had any feelings for Katherine?
Paul: Yeah. It’s kind of like being in a relationship, you think you’re completely in love, you’re infatuated, and then you meet another person and you go, “Oh my God, what was I thinking?” And it’s kind of like that but a little different because that person also gave me eternal life. His obsession with Katherine was something that was finally broken by this human. And not for a 160 years, no one could break this obsession. And that’s why he would die and breathe for Elena for the rest of his life. For the rest of her life, I should say. (source)

Paul: I think Stefan is genuinely in love with Elena. Not to get sappy, but I think that counts for something. (source)

Julie Plec: Every time Stefan has withheld something from Elena, it’s always been to protect her. It comes from the right place. (source)

Nina: But Elena — it’s not about that for her. She cares about Stefan. And he’s important to her and she has this connection with him, but she will put her friends and her family and the safety of her town before anything else, and she’s not going to swoon over the fact that he’s a vampire and ask her to bite him right away and all that. (source)

Julie Plec: In the beginning of the series it was very important to have the journals because the two of them didn’t have anybody to talk to about their deepest feelings. Stefan is alone and caring this huge secret and needed an outlet for that. Elena was spiritually alone in that she’d lost her parents and didn’t feel like anybody really understood what she was feeling and where she was coming from, and so they were able to express themselves on paper. But the minute they felt in love they had each other. He doesn’t need to write something down if he doesn’t keep secrets from her, and she can express herself to him, she can open herself up to him, so the actual dramatic need for the journals diminished just by definition of putting those two into a relationship. (source)

Paul: Stefan and Elena have this love that is so pure and natural, and I think that that’s not gonna change and I don’t really want that to. I think it will be challenged as it has been. (source)

Does Elena think about going over to the other side?
Nina: She has not considered that yet, no.
Paul: Might I say that, whatever, my character would never wish that for her. He loves her too much. And he sees it as a curse.
She’s mortal, she will grow old, you don’t grow old.
Paul: That is the sad tradegy to our romance, that’s so beautiful at the same time. (source)

How would Stefan react if Elena & Damon ever get together?
Paul: For good? If they get together for good? Because I don’t think he’ll ever stop trying getting… I don’t think he’ll ever accept that, because he lives for Elena. So if he finds out that she wants nothing to do with him … I don’t know, maybe he’ll off himself (laugh)…I think he’ll fight till the end. Because he has nothing else really to look for, except for her. (source)

What was your favorite scene shooting in season 1?
Paul: I think my favorite moment is right before Elena and I make looove – not that scene, although that was… anyway, I’m gonna go on the tangent! – the first time I vamp out in front of her and my entire face turns red and I have veins and I’m ashamed of myself because I’m ashamed that I am this creature, and she tells me it’s okay and says turn around and touches my face and tells me it’s beautiful. I thought that was one of the most intimate moment that the two of them could ever share together because he’s never done that with another human being, so that was my favorite scene and I love it. And then the love scene, close second. (source)

Nina: Stefan is very attractive because he is protective of Elena and he loves her unconditionally. He would do anything for her, and he’s committed. (source)

Did Elena choose the right brother?>
Nina: She still hasn’t decided at her age. Why choose when you have two of the hottest brothers after you? She’s all Stefan, all the time though – she loves Stefan. Stefan’s a little stuck up. He’s always looking after her. Both (Stefan and Damon) have different qualities. Stefan will always protect her. (source)

Nina: Stefan is committed and sweet and protective and loving. (source)

Paul: Stefan is sorta hopeless romantic and Elena she’s the love of his life. (source)

Nina: Elena’s in love with Stefan. And she really was not searching, but it sort of came to her. He’s like this spirit, this person, this thing that fills the emptiness and the loss in her life. (source)

“Oh, the kiss. Stefan’s first reaction is, ‘I’m going to kill you. Like I am going to literally kill you, rip you apart. This is my beautiful girl. This is the love of my life. Stay the hell away'” Wesley says. (source)

What do you think Stefan’s motivations are for season 2?
Paul: Elena, Elena, Elena, Elena – he loves her. (source)

Dobrev says: “I feel like she has high morals, and she loves Stefan. It’s always been Stefan.” (source)

“I think that Elena’s feelings for Damon are still friendly,” Dobrev says. “She’s concerned about him, and she definitely cares about him, but she and Stefan have been through so much. She wants to make that work.” (source)

Nina: Because for the last 22 episodes, for the last year, that she’s been involved with these two boys, she’s fallen further and further and more deeply in love with Stefan. (source)

Right now, protecting that true love means that Stefan has to go toe-to-toe with his evil ex-girlfriend, Katherine.”If she tries to hurt Elena, hell yeah, there will be some serious beat-downs.” (source)

Do you think Stefan eventually needs to turn Elena into a vampire for her to be with him?
Nina: I don’t know… They’re at the beginning of their relationship so I don’t know if this is for the long haul… I mean, she not even knows what’s going on, she still tries to figure out herself, to figure out him and how she’s coping with everything, his brother, and her friend is a witch, so I think becoming a vampire and taking that leap of faith and making this commitment is not something she’s considering at this moment of time. (source)

How do you feel about Elena/Stefan blood sharing?
Julie Plec: That’s a beautiful commitment in their relationship. It’s kind of like a monogamy commitment in a way. It’s a little cheesy and it’s very perverse, but I thought it was kind of beautiful and special. Their relationship as of that moment has never been stronger. (source)

Paul: “I can’t see Stefan ever having other romantic relationships”.
“I think Stefan went out and experienced every single possible life and in the end, with everything he learned, he came back to the root of it, which is that he wants to be a good man and he wants to find pure, real love. The rest of it doesn’t matter.” (source)

But it’s something more powerful than planning that will keep Stefan’s blood thirst at bay: Love.
“One very telling thing that he said two episodes ago was that he has something else to live for,” says Plec. “The difference between last year and this year is last year he didn’t believe he deserved Elena’s love. … Right now we’re at a place where Stefan has come to terms with some of his demons and is feeling very strong in his love for Elena and is confident that she loves him in spite of their current relationship problems.” (source)

Nina: I think Elena would marry Stefan, kiss Damon because she’s never done it and kill Edward. (source)

Will Stefan ever end up with Katherine?
Kevin Williamson: That’s a really good question. But right now it’s all about Elena and Stefan. (source)

Nina: Elena at first meets Stefan and she can’t explain what is exactly that draws her to him but there’s something mysterious and interesting and they have this connection and this bond, and they’re drawn to each other they just can’t help it. She later finds out that he’s a vampire, which complicates the situation […] But for some reason she’s still in love with him, I still don’t know why.
Paul: What do you mean? Come on! She doesn’t know why? I thought we had an understanding here.
Nina: I don’t know why. Elena may know why. I’m just trying to figure it out. I -to be honest- wouldn’t put up with either of you two!
Paul: Don’t you see how much I love you? Doesn’t that count for something?
Nina: Maybe that’s why, maybe she’s blinded by the love.
Paul: Of course!
Nina: Stefan is committed and loving and would do anything to protect her…

Will Elena stay single for the rest of the season? What will happen to her romantically?
Kevin Williamson: Is she single right now? Elena is always, no matter how single she is, she’s still standing there with Stefan. They’re a couple who have conflicts and they have a big one looming. They’re starting to truly disagree about how to handle things. But no, I wouldn’t stay she’s going to stay single by any means. I wouldn’t say she’s single now. She may be arguing or disagreeing with Stefan at the moment, but I don’t think they’re too far apart. (source)

Will Elena and Damon EVER get together?
Julie Plec: If at any point in the life of this series, that could go on forever and ever, I think that if we didn’t go down that road eventually, we wouldn’t be doing our jobs right. But, I would never say when or how or to what end. I can only say that it’s a show predicated on a girl coming back to life and her development of love for one brother who then, because of who she is, changes the life of the other brother and that’s our show. There are roads we can go down with that in the future, for sure, so stay tuned. (source)

Nina: Elena’s nature is very wholesome, she needs that sort of consistant love and protection, and that’s what Stefan gives to her. (source)

Dobrev says she was thrilled when she started reading the script for an upcoming episode in which Stefan and Elena take a romantic getaway. As Welsey told us, it doesn’t end well.
“I was really excited for them when I started reading that script!” she says, shaking her head. “I was like ‘Oh my god! Would you look at that? There’s sunshine!’ Actually, it’s the best time they’ve had in a long time. It almost starts to feel like the fairytale that it began as, but it doesn’t end that way. It takes a turn for the worst toward the end, but they do have a good five minutes, give or take. Elena smiles a couple times.” (source)

Before things go terribly wrong, fans of Stefan and Elena as a couple will be pleased to see some sweet, happy moments, including an emotional scene where they discuss the reality of Elena’s mortality. After all, if Elena remains human, she is inevitably going to age and someday die — while Stefan will stay 17 forever. “There’s a lovely scene that we do at the lake house discussing that,” Wesley says. “Touching lightly upon it without hitting you over the head, you know what I mean? It’s really kind of beautiful.” (source)

We started this season with Stefan drinking Elena’s blood. Is that going to come back to haunt him or haunt them as he drinks more human blood?
Julie Plec: Not at the moment. I think that in its own way, it was a smart choice. He’s come to terms with all his demons from last year and all the guilt that lead him down that road and Stefan’s issues with blood were psychological and emotional. And drinking small tiny amounts every day with the trust and the commitment of your one true love to build up the strength so that you never have to worry about becoming that guy, I think we want to see if we can deliver on that. (source)

Who loves Stefan more: Elena or Katherine? Why?
Nina: I’d have to say that their loves come from two very different places. Elena loves Stefan because she feels a deep connection with him that surpasses all the common emotions of high school life. Katherine loves Stefan because her history with him ties back further than most mortals could ever understand. And it’s like a game of cat and mouse. He’s playing hard to get. It’s exciting for her. (source)

Paul: If I was earnest all the time, which Stefan tends to be, I’d sort of really get sick of it. So the moments where I have to indulge and have fun, and be a little lustful with Katherine, or vicious or blood thirsty, I love that. But if it was all that, I would want some beautiful sweet moments with Elena because I think that romance is so pure. (source)

Nina Dobrev tells us that as far as Elena is concerned, she’s totally devoted to Stefan. “Elena loves Damon and cares about him, but she’s not in love with him,” she says. “She’s in love with Stefan.” (source)

Paul: I think Stefan is gonna explore more his dark side… but don’t worry, I’ll never stop loving Elena. (source)

Paul: I care about this character, I care about these characters very much, I’m very attached… I think the story is beautiful and it’s really difficult not to get involved. It’s like the woman that I love, that I’ve spent this entire existence living for her, for everything she does, she’s everything to me… She’s leaving my life… How can you not emote? (source)

What was your favorite scene to shoot of the two seasons?
Paul: Season one, my favorite scene was the moment when I… uhm… this is going to sound ridiculous, but it really was that entire sequence I did with Nina up to the point where we first made love. But for me it was more about, you know… she touched my face for the first time, saw my veins, watched me turn into this creature and she accepted me for who I was and it was symbolic on many levels. It was a very intimate moment and I loved shooting that scene, that was beautiful. I think honestly that’s my favorite moment so far. (source)

Paul: When Stefan and Elena first made love, it was beautiful. So innocent, so Romeo and Juliet. With Elena and Stefan, there’s an obvious love. (source)

Is Stefan totally against giving Elena immortality?
Paul: Absolutely not. Absolutely not. He is absolutely not against giving her immortality. But I also think that it would be selfish of him to impose that on her, he knows that she knows it’s an option. So she needs to approach him. But I think yeah, for sure, from a completely selfish place…it’s the woman he loves, eternal love with the woman that you’re with and you never age? That’s fantastic. But this is a curse as well […] It can be amazing, and it can also be really horrid. And I think having the love of his life with him would be pretty incredible. (source)

Nina: She loves Stefan so so much… She right now is so unbelievably in love with him, but that’s a big choice, it’s like marriage times ten… (source)

What do you think that Stefan’s opinion is on the potential of Elena turning into a vampire?
Paul: I feel it’s sort of a very odd line to walk, because on the positive side, we can be in love forever, do this forever, and be happy forever. If we’re going to speak from a really logical sense, it’s difficult for me to not understand why Elena would want to be a vampire. Because, look, if it gets really bad and you’re really bored and you start fighting, just take the ring off. Step into the sun.
If we’re talking about it in a metaphorical, kind of symbolical way, I do think there is a torturous side to being a vampire and it’s this guilt-ridden, tortured, dark, place that can manifest inside of you and I think that Stefan has seen the worst of it, the darkest parts so he knows that Elena would have to endure that and that would be selfish of him to want to impose that upon on her but at the same time, he cannot be like: “Listen, hey, I don’t want you to get old and die…can we just do this?” [interviewer: “don’t get old and gross, please”] Yeah, “I’ll still love you, I think”…No, I’m just kidding (laughs).” (source)

Julie Plec: Stefan is in the ultimate predicament, which is that he has this wonderfully solid, beautiful love story with Elena, but he’s also got a very complicated love story with his brother. (source)

Paul: I think he’s gonna do everything possible to convince her to be safe, for selfish reasons because he’s in love with her, but in the end he needs to trust his woman, his partner. (source)

Julie Plec: That’s the difference right now between Stefan and Damon: Stefan sees that in love you have to take the other person’s wishes into consideration. (source)

Dobrev thinks Elena’s heart will always belong to Stefan, even if he’s enjoying a taste of the dark side. “You always want what you can’t have, and that’s why for so long [the writers] have been keeping [Elena and Damon] apart because they want the fans to want what they can’t have,” she says. “Now that Stefan is gone Elena will want what she can’t have and she’ll miss him and wonder if he’s ok, and I think it will make their relationship stronger.” (source)

Nina: With Stefan, whenever he’s around she’s just, it’s almost like she melts into his arms and she feels somewhat relieved. (source)

Joseph Morgan: Stefan is more predictable for him because he’s in love with Elena in a way that is honorable. (source)

Kevin Williamson: At the end of Season 2, Katherine uttered that one line, ‘It’s OK to love both of them.’ We’re gonna sort of watch that play out. And what does that mean? It meant one thing for Katherine. What’s it going to mean for Elena? You can love someone brotherly. You can love someone as a friend. And I just think romantic love — it may not be OK to love both of them. I think that’s the journey. She’s got a big journey, because 100 percent, yes, she’s attracted to this man [Damon]. Yes, she loves Stefan unbelievably — I mean, it’s an epic love that’s never going to change. (source)

Stefan and Elena have overcome a lot, can they overcome this?
Paul: They say “true love can overcome anything”, so we’ll have to wait and see if it’s true love, right? (source)

Do you think Stefan would cheat on Elena?
Paul: Right now, no. But I don’t know what they’re gonna write. They may make me loose it […] I don’t know what’s gonna happen. But I do think it’s entirely possible that Damon and Elena develop a relationship, Stefan’s left on the outskirts and I have no idea if he eventually meets someone. I really don’t know much, but I think that’s possible. Hate to say it. (source)

Paul says that despite the blood, Stefan’s eye isn’t wandering. “If Stefan is the way he is now, then no,” he tells us. “Because Stefan isn’t thinking about other women in the least bit. He’s completely in love with Elena and he’s doing this whole thing for Elena.” (source)

Paul: Anything’s possible but to my knowledge at this point, her heart is strictly for Stefan, as Stefan’s heart is strictly for Elena. (source)

Kevin Williamson: This is a story about Stefan and Elena’s love story. I think it’s fun to watch the twists and turns that we take. Because you know what? She doesn’t know. (source)

Ian: Stefan’s left Damon here in Mystic Falls. Now he’s got to protect this girl that he loves, but that he can’t have, because it’s his brother’s girl — and even though it’s Damon, he can’t do that to his brother. And even if he could, she doesn’t love him anyway. She wants his brother. (source)

Nina: Elena is still holding on to her love and the idea of what she remembers to be the perfect relationship that she had with Stefan. (source)

Nina: Damon is trying to make sure she’s happy and what makes her happy is Stefan. And she still has hope that Stefan can be saved. (source)

Paul: The musical soundrack that I would pick, for example if I was emotional or something, and crying hysterically to Elena that she needs to take me back and that I’m desperately in love with her, I would probably listen to something like Bon Iver or Sigur Ros or something. (source)

Paul: If I’m doing a love scene with Elena on a bed, what, am I supposed to be clothed? It’s a sexy vampire show. Showing skin comes with the territory. (source)

Paul: Vampires can’t procreate. But they can practice. Maybe we’ll adopt a baby, me and Elena.

Nina: Stefan has the hair, but what do you do with the hair? When..like..they’re in bed and stuff? You don’t want to mess up the hair..right? I feel like Stefan would get mad at Elena if she like touched his hair. source

Wesley, too, hinted at an explosive reunion between the two. The pair’s relationship during Stefan’s wild period, he said, is relatively nonexistent for the most part, and then really sad and really painful. And eventually, without giving too much away, I think it turns into the antithesis of everything it was. (source)

Paul: That eternal love story between Elena and Stefan is something that I hope everyone always roots for. (source)

But are Stefan and Elena still dating through this forced separation?
“That’s why it’s tricky,” Dobrev said. “It’s yes and no. I mean, they are because last they saw each other they were, and they do still love each other, there’s no doubt about that. But when you don’t see someone for so long — forget about long distance — you’re not even speaking to them. It’s not really a relationship so it’s really, really hard for them. But when they finally do reunite, there’s a lot of tension in the air because they haven’t seen each other in so long.” (source)

Do you feel like after everything that happens in ever long this Ripper Stefan exists, he can ever go back to the person he was, exactly as he was?
Paul: You know right now, what I’m shooting, my mentality… no. But love and circumstances prevail, you know, and that’s sort of the underlining question that we get to all discover and watch, I don’t have the answer. (source)

Do you think Elena is gonna be the only love interest?
Paul: I don’t think so. Whether you’re asking me if she’ll be the true love of his life – she’s the woman he’s really always connected with and has the deepest feelings for – that’s a different question. But I think there are a lot of stories to tell and a lot of characters to introduce. (source)

Plec assures that this storyline will be a big deal for the Stefan/Elena relationship, especially as Elena struggles “with her desire to help rescue this person that she loved very purely and very deeply, but also learning the lesson that you can’t necessarily let yourself be consumed in your life by saving someone else’s.” (source)

Paul: Because the love story is important you know, it really is. That’s sort of the undertone of the whole thing. (source)

Paul: I’ve been compelled by Klaus to turn off all of my feelings, to forget all of my love for Elena and to give into the lust of the blood and to kill her, to suck on her neck, to suck on her blood. I’m doing everything in my power to hold back. It was really excruciating, on a physical level, and also just the idea of having that woman that you love standing in front of you and feeling the need to drain her of her blood, but fighting that and trying to find your humanity… it was pretty demanding. (source)

Joseph Morgan: But there is always going to be this connection between Elena and Stefan. So maybe eventually, that will win. Won’t it? (source)

Who do you think Elena is better with? Damon or Stefan?
Nina: I think that deep down she’s in love with the person that Stefan is. She loves warm-hearted people who are loving… In the last few episodes we haven’t seen that from Stefan but that’s the person that she fell in love with, this guy who’d do anything and everything for her, move mountains, and that’s why it’s so heartbreaking for her to see him the way he is now. (source)

Paul about Stefan’s biggest quality: “Loyalty. You know, I think he has that loyalty for his brother, and a love and a loyalty to the love of his life, Elena”. (source)

Julie Plec (about episode 3×11): It’s a big Stefan-and-Elena relationship episode in that you get a sense of how tragic and sad it is that such a great love has been ripped apart as a result of everything that Klaus has done. (source)

Julie Plec (about episode 3×01): And then Kevin, in his infinite brilliance, just said, “No, she should get home. It’s the end of the night. We think all hope is lost. And then the phone should ring. And she should almost miss the call. And then when she picks up, he’s there, but he doesn’t say anything because he just needs to hear her voice, because it’s the one thing keeping him from completely falling apart.” And I started to cry. I think that our most successful emotional moments on the show, they’re all very human, real moments. It’s a guy who just needs to hear the voice of his touchstone, of the love of his life, to let him have a better day. (source)

Julie Plec (about episode 3×03): Stefan opens the closet door and he sees her, and they come face-to-face. It’s the strangest moment because she’s in his, like, murder board closet, but the way they look at each other… and you realize, ohmygod, these two have not seen each other in so long, and they love each other so much, and the look on his face… We know how much he needs her, how she’s what keeps him from falling over the edge, and he’s in this predicament: oh god, is she about to get caught? Am I about to get caught? It’s just this powerful reunion that always makes me get a little teary. (source)

Nina (about the closet scene in 3×03): That was definitely a very intense scene, especially because, for the past two years, Paul and I have been working together so closely almost every day. Towards the beginning of the season, we had absolutely no scenes together, so that was actually one of the first scenes where we were working together again. It was such a weird dynamic, and when we locked eyes it really felt like we were locking eyes for the first time. But nothing was said, everything’s in the looks, and the feeling, the tension was built up so much and it was palpable, you can feel the love, the fear, the anxiety, the memories and the history between the two… (source)

Julie Plec: There is a scene in “The Reckoning” which I think might be my favorite absolute of the whole year, where Klaus compels Stefan to turn off his emotions. It’s a very intense scene. […] It seems so ridiculous to say that moment should be romantic, but in a way it was the most romantic moment of the series. It’s a guy trying so hard to hold on to his humanity through his love for this one girl, and then watching as this get ripped out from him… And so we went back in and said you know what, take out all the tension music and make it epic, make it sad and beautiful, use the love cue that Stefan and Elena have, use that cue, not the scary cue. (source)

Paul: There’s layers of humanity, regret, and sadness in his eyes, but it’s all sort of masked by this sociopathic, raging maniac who’s scaring her to death. His relationship [with Elena] is sort of the antithesis of what it was, which was this really romantic, soft, protective relationship. (source)

Kevin Williamson: And now will he ever be able to forgive himself and get back from it? And earn the love of a girl again? She’ll love him, but I don’t think he’s going to let her so easily. (source)

Daniel Gillies: I also don’t think Stefan is out of the picture really. Both Elijah and Daniel think Stefan is still the biggest romantic threat for Elena’s heart. (source)

Julie Plec: In my mind, Elena’s parents are dead. It was a human accident, and a human tragedy, and as we know, the night that Stefan pulled her out of the water and saved her life. That was kind of the beginning of their love story. (source)

Wesley too acknowledged that though eternal love is with Elena, there are sparks with Caroline. “I think it could be a nice match, but I don’t know how long-lasting it is. Maybe he can have a little fling. Although that might be unforgivable. One of Elena’s best friends.” (source)

Candice Accola (on the obstacles for Stefan and Caroline ever getting together): He’s star crossed lovers with her best friend! (source)

Can we expect reconciliation between Elena and Stefan soon?
Julie Plec: We can expect movement, we can expect breakthroughs, we can expect honest conversations and we can expect some frustration as they continue to try to rediscover if those feelings that were so strong in the beginning still exist. Did they go away and has Stefan ruined it forever? Or does Elena still have a willingness and an ability to love him? (source)

@paulwesley thinks that Elena and Stefan will end up together in the end. (source)

Paul: But it’s almost like they conquered something, so I think there’s hope.
What’s interesting about Stefan & Elena’s relationship… now there’s a threat. Where is before, it was just this really nice relationship because the good guy was always doing the right thing, and now we all know how capable he is of being cold blood and heartless, so I think that immediately creates such a danger… (source)

Nina: It’s not like after what he did she can just go back and completely start fresh and forget about it. The implications are pretty permanent. So it will be interesting to see if they can really get back to a good place again. (source)

Paul: I think the story is grounded in that relationship. There has to be hope for them. The series needs that backdrop of them potentially being together and being torn apart. That’s the key component. (source)

Paul: I think what they’re trying to do is they built this relationship with Damon and Elena and I think now they need to bring it back to the root of Stefan and Elena. And to do that they need to make Stefan a little more acceptable by her standards. (source)

Paul: To be honest, it’s almost like Stefan allowed Damon to step in. I mean, that was Stefan’s girl, and now Damon is suddenly a real factor, he’s really in the picture. I think Stefan feels like he deserves this, in a way. He kind of abandoned her, in his mind. (source)

Paul: This is the case for any relationship: you can’t force anything. You have to let things happen naturally. Stefan, for his part, thinks that if Elena needs to explore the Damon side of things, she should be allowed to do that, and if she decides that Damon is indeed the guy she wants to be with, then I think Stefan would at that point be okay with losing her, because it means she wasn’t the right girl for him anyway. (source)

Paul: The more he deals with moderation, the closer he grows to Elena. He was so involved in his own darkness, he didn’t have any time for romance. As the episodes progress, the audience is going to see Stefan maybe becoming more like he was season one and two, sort of the romantic lead hero. (source)

Paul: I think it’s two people who really love one another very deeply getting to a place of resolution about the fact that there may be no hope. They have to conquer that. And I’m not saying they do because they certainly don’t. I’m filming episode 21 right now and it’s not like they’re a lovey-dovey couple. But what I’m saying is the more truthful they are about what has happened, the more grim it is. But at the same time, it’s more intimate because they’re sharing these truths with one another. (source)

It’s been a very, very tough season for Elena and Stefan. Are there any words of hope you can offer the fans?
Paul: The fans should definitely maintain some hope. The thing to remember is that Stefan and Elena have this love that is so strong, and it was sort of the core of Season 1 — you can’t entirely disregard that. (source)

Are you rooting for them to get together right now? Is that something you’d like to see?
Paul: Not necessarily, but I’m also not against it. I just feel like things have to happen naturally, and I don’t want anything force-fed. Quite truthfully, I think they needed to break up — and I think eventually they’ll need to get back together. (source)

Why is Elena crying in Stefan’s arms at the decade dance?
It’s an “a lot has happened in our lives, a lot has torn us apart” cry, Plec says. A lot has gone down on the evening of the decade dance, and it’s two people who really just need to hold each other. They need to feel something with each other. It’s a beautiful moment, but it is sad. (source)

Julie Plec: And so Elena asks Stefan to the dance. And it’s sweet, and it’s romantic, and it’s them at their best, and it’s them coming back together and having a night… (source)

Torrey DeVitto: I’m team Stefan. I think it’s a great love story. [Damon/Elena] would be like Bella and Jacob ending together, it can’t happen! (source)

Who do you ship on the show, who do you want to be together?
Torrey: I like Elena with Stefan.
Paul: Do you?
Torrey: I do. How can you deny it? That’s love, true love.
Paul (teasing): You know, Stefan develops a relationship with another character…
Torrey: I don’t think it’s possible.

Candice Accola: Caroline is such a Stelena worshipper. So I think that she just recognizes that Stefan is someone good for Elena, and she is rooting for her to open her eyes and give him a chance. I think Caroline, deep down, does have that little “He’s the best for you. He is your one epic true love. I am not going to let you just throw him away because you’re getting distracted by shiny Damon things.” (source)

Candice Accola: Caroline is very much a Stelena shipper. I think Caroline has seen such a wonderful side of Stefan. She really has seen the reasons in which Elena has fallen for him, and she sees that he can protect her and bring a good side of her out. I think she sees Stefan as much more protective and, you know, a good person to be with. (source)

Candice Accola: I think that it’s so beautiful that Elena really is Stefan’s true love. So I think ultimately it would be kind of terrifying for a character, who has become strong but still as vulnerable as Caroline, to open her heart to a character like Stefan, who is already so emotionally attached to Elena… because she would probably get hurt. (source)

Paul: I think the Elena/Stefan storyline is an integral part of the show. I think their love is infinite. (source)

Paul: Stefan and Elena are the core of the story. source

If Elena was Steven R. McQueen’s real sister, he would tell her to choose Stefan/Paul. (source) “Damon broke my neck so screw that guy! I would go with Wesley.” (source)

Paul: I think that Elena’s love with Stefan is an undying romance that will exist forever, but I don’t know if the circumstances allow for them to end up together. (source)

Her kiss with Stefan in her house was the first one they’ve shared all season.
Julie Plec: We were heading toward the end of the road knowing that as a human, Stefan was Elena’s choice.
We really wanted to see Stefan and Elena come back together after a really long and really horrible season. She was his champion and fought for him, even when he didn’t deserve to be fought for, she still came back and said “I couldn’t stop loving you, I could never stop loving you.” That deserved payoff. When we wrote “The Last Day” last year, we knew where Stefan was going, and that was the last romantic episode those two were going to have probably for a year. We knew it was all going to go to hell, so finally being able to have one tiny moment of intimacy was nice. (source)

Julie Plec: What we’ve said all year is that this is the choice for who she is at this moment in her life, and what she wants out of her life, and who she wants to have in her life in a romantic way. What she said was 100 percent true: even at its worst, she never fell out of love with Stefan, and you just can’t let somebody like that go.
She’s committed to Stefan. She loves Stefan. We’ll get to actually see them be together for a little while. (source)

Were you surprised when you found out that Elena picked Stefan?
Paul: Absolutely not!
What do you expect for Stefan and Elena next season?
Paul: Since they’re both vampires, they’ll be a lot of… you know… sex! Vampire sex. He had a drought. He had a dry spell, Stefan. Hopefully season 4 he’ll be… (source)

Now that Elena is a vampire, do you look forward things to change in your relationship with her?
Paul: Yeah. I mean it will be interesting to see if Stefan accepts her in this way. I think a lot of it is gonna be him dealing with his guilt of exposing her to the world of vampires. (source)

Do you think Elena being a vampire allow them to be together in a different way, now? Romantically?
Paul: What do you mean? I don’t know… less inhibition? Wild passionate sex, vampire sex? (source)

Paul (about Stefan getting the girl): It was a big win, absolutely. I felt like he deserved it, you know. Stefan and Elena have a history. As we saw in the flashback, he saved her life. They were in love, they were in deep love, and I just think that at the end of the day, she recognized that. (source)

Nina (about Elena choosing Stefan): I understand why she made the decision. I respect her decision, and I think, having seen the last three years, what’s happened in her life, everyone will also. (source)

Paul: My reaction to the finale was frustration that Stefan didn’t save Elena. And this year my real question is whether they’re gonna embrace her being a vampire and just commit to it, or whether they’re gonna fight it. (source)

Paul (about the S3 finale underwater scene): “I don’t buy it. I’ll be completely honest. The writers are probably going to get mad at me! I don’t buy it, but it is what it is and so we have to live with it. I personally think Stefan would have just went, ‘I don’t really care what the hell you have to say’, and would have grabbed her – but it is a story and frustrating things happen in life and stories.” (source)

Julie Plec: Paul Wesley called when he read the script and he said ‘How could he…there’s no way that Stefan would leave her to die, you know… like he loves her so much’. He’s like ‘I don’t buy it for a minute’. And I said ‘What do you mean you don’t buy it? That’s the entire freakin foundation of Stefan and Elena’s relationship…that he respects her choice’. And this is her choice. And she’s saying to you ‘help him first’. I said to him, that your not leaving her to die, your just helping him first. And unfortunately, time has run out and then she dies before he can get back there but you know…it’s the beauty of the dynamic of your relationship and the fundamental thing that separates Damon and Elena from Stefan and Elena. What do you do in a moment where you know that if you don’t save the child, then you save your wife…she will probably never forgive you for saving her. And I believe that to be so true for Elena… like if Stefan saved Elena and let Matt die, especially given the way it all turned out, I don’t know that Elena could ever recover from that. The guilt would have been too much. So even though it sucked… it was horrible for Stefan… it was the worst thing he had to do in his entire life, and he would never probably do it again… it was the right call. (source)

Julie Plec: Stefan is devastated. He knows that she never wanted this. He would do anything he could to make sure she didn’t have to go through it but it’s kind of inevitable that she has to. So now he’s got to be her champion and her partner and her true love, and yet also adjust to her having to be a vampire when he himself is not very good at being one. (source)

Julie Plec: Stefan thinks he screwed up, he didn’t. That’s a point that Elena will make very, very quickly: “Yes, that’s why when I had a choice to make, in about who I wanted to be with, that helped inform the choice that I made. Knowing these things about Stefan versus Damon… Stefan respects me and my choices and me as an individual.” (source)

Nina: She was in the same position when her parents died and Stefan saved her. Although she was grateful to him, she didn’t want that to happen again. She wanted to sacrifice herself for the people she loved. She had enough of all this. Of course, she’s going to be incredibly thankful that he had enough respect for her and cared enough to respect her wishes. (source)

Julie Plec: The first episode [of S4] is a lot of people feeling a lot of guilt, a lot of torment and Elena having to manage all of that in the midst of realizing she has a big decision to make. Obviously Stefan knew he was going to come right back for Elena, but she ran out of time. That is a decision that’s going to haunt him, but probably lead Elena to explain even more to Stefan why she chose him because of that. (source)

Paul: I think we all have that situation in real life. But ultimately we make one choice. Elena has made that choice – it will always be Stefan. (source)

Ian: No shit it’s always gonna be Stefan… It’s always gonna be Stefan. I don’t blame her, Stefan’s a better dude. (source)

If you were in Elena’s position, who would you choose?
Claire Holt nodding to the audience screaming “Stefan!”: Yeah. I think she made the right choice. They’re pretty great together. (source)

Paul: Stelena will always be the core of the show, the show revolves around Stelena. (source)

Ian thinks the most romantic scene in TVD was Stefan & Elena’s first kiss. (source)

Paul: I’ve never compelled Elena. I’ve never done it! I respect her too much. (source)

Nina: Stefan feeds Elena’s soul. (source)

Paul: I think that Elena and Stefan have an undying love and romance. (source)

What is your favourite Stelena scene?
Julie Plec: Car wash. First sex. Out on the docks at lake house. Fight scene when he’s been feeding (118). Her confronting him in 307. (source)

Ian: I’m sure that [Damon] can hear Stefan and Elena getting it on up in the roof of the Salvatore house. Super hearing is a bitch. (source)

Is Elena hotter as a Vampire?
Paul: Vampirism multiplies a female’s hotness by two! (source)

Zach Roerig: Stefan honored Elena’s choice to save [Matt] and he’s kind of OK with that because that’s how much he really loves Elena. (source)

Julie Plec (about Stefan dealing with the new vampire Elena situation): What’s nice about it is that they realize if they want to they can be together forever, so in a small way it’s a small victory in this whole catastrophe. (source)

Julie Plec: Damon and Elena’s feelings for Damon continue to be the biggest things that could keep Stefan and Elena from being together forever. (source)

Paul: You always want what you can’t have. So I’m really secretly hoping that Damon/Elena get together so everyone gets really sick of them. And then they’d say “Stefan would be so great for her, because it’s just so annoying watching those two on screen all the time!” (source)

Arielle Kebbel: It’s all about Stelena #thatsright #isaidit (source)

Julie Plec: We wanted Stefan to be her hero, to really reaffirm all the ways and all the reasons why she chose him at the end of last year. (source)

Julie Plec: They love each other as deeply as two people can love each other, but that doesn’t mean that their relationship is infallible. (source)

Paul: I know [Stefan and Elena] are the romantic love story in the entire series, but I do believe potentially that they can find a different kind of romance that isn’t as naive as it was before. I feel in season one, they were really naive lovers who weren’t aware of impending doom of any relationship. (source)

Plec also confirms that Stefan is “clearly emotionally driven by a desire to ‘fix her.’” But, “to Stefan’s credit, he might be right. He might actually be right, that this is not who she is and this is not who she’s supposed to be.” (source)

If Elena became human again, Stefan would be the one living happily ever after with her, Ian predicts. (source)

Ian: [Damon] has an exorbitant amount of trepidation about getting this cure because he has a pretty clear idea that once she gets it, she’s going to go back to feeling this way for Stefan. (source)

Where is Stefan’s head at when the show returns? [ep 4×10]
Julie Plec: He’s got a lot to deal with emotionally and he has a lot of decisions to make about how he’s going to deal with what he feels is a terrible, terrible betrayal from his brother, a profound disappointment and the loss of his girl. (source)

Candice Accola: [Caroline] is Team Stefan all the way. She knows that the root of him is a very selfless, good man and she wants that for her friend. She doesn’t want Elena to get hurt. That’s why she wants to just hit Elena over the head with a frying pan being like, ‘What are you doing? There is this great man that has done nothing but prove that he’s selfless and yeah maybe he was the Ripper and maybe he messed up but he works on it. He wants to be better. Damon never wants to be better. Damon’s always Damon.’ That’s very much the tone of what Caroline has been giving Elena. (source)

Candice Accola: Right now, Caroline is really just rooting for [Stefan] and Elena to be together so bad because she knows this is a good guy. He deserves to be with someone great. Elena is great; she deserves to be with someone great. They would be perfect together and live happily ever and I could plan that whole wedding! (source)

Will there be a chance for Stefan and Elena again this season?
Paul: I think it’s always one of those things that it’s just going to sort of be there and percolate. And they are always going to have a thing for one another. It’s definitely one of those things where there’s still feelings on both ends on a genuine level. (source)

Julie Plec: There’s the strong, stoic, ‘I’m going to stand by your side no matter how painful it is for me because I know it doesn’t compare to your pain,’ you had that in Stefan. (source)

Paul: The key to Stefan and Elena, as far as I’m concerned, is time and distance. The more you keep them away from one another, the less Stefan is trying to help Elena, trying to fix Elena, trying to run after her and pick up everything she drops — the more she just screws up on her own, he screws up on his own, they have all these experiences, and then something maybe happens. (source)

Paul (about the impact of Jeremy’s death on Stefan): This character is the only living relative of the woman that I’m in love with. So it affects me because it affects her. (source)

Paul: “I can’t imagine Elena ever definitively saying, ‘Oh, I’m not in love with you; it’s just Stefan,’ because then I think, where does the show go from there? But her intense feelings for Damon during the sire bond — I can’t imagine that they were true 110 percent.” (source)

Julie says TVD’s premise was the girl that loses parents, feels dead inside, meets undead boy, they bring each other to life. “You want to be able to say ‘This is a show about this thing’ and at end of show, you have to set up how that will work again and again.” (source)

Paul: “Personally, I want Elena to be human again. Because I think it’s a better dynamic.” (source)

Paul: I really like the relationship between an innocent human and a vampire, it’s an interesting combination. It makes for a very good storytelling. (source)

Julie Plec: The bottom line is that Elena as a human made a very, very, very clear choice that she would love Stefan always and forever. But then her entire life turned upside down, and any feelings she originally had for Damon were still there, and of course magnified. There was always going to be a little bit of a confusion there for her — but not enough confusion for her to be over Stefan. It would take a lot to rip Elena away from loving Stefan. It would take years and seasons. (source)

Is the Damon-Elena relationship permanent?? Is there any hope for Stefan?
Paul: Yes, I think there’s hope. Any time you have this intense relationship that lasts for two seasons… I always think there’s a possibility in TV series for people to rekindle. (source)

Nina: There’s a different connection you have with different people, and I think that Elena had a certain connection with Stefan that was very profound. (source)

Caroline was so anti-Damon/Elena last season, are we gonna to see more of that in the premiere season?
Candice Accola: Oh yeah, Caroline is still a Stelena fan! (source)

Torrey DeVitto: Stefan is fiercely loyal to Elena, and Paul is the most loyal person I know. (source)

Last time we were in the studio, you said that in the love triangle you hoped you didn’t get chosen because then the fans would feel sorry for you. You’ve got your wish, are you happy about it?
Paul: You know, it’s not about the fans feeling sorry for me, it’s more about like I just don’t like shoving anything down anyone’s throat, you know what I mean? I would prefer to be the guy who is not the winner in that battle, because there’s a lot of expectation then, to maintain the love story. (source)

Nina: It’s this cosmic connection you have with someone that you’ve spent so much time with and I don’t know if that will go away. (source)

Paul Wesley recently said that he believes that Stefan will never truly get over Elena. “That love has to always exist,” he says. (source)

“The beautiful thing about Elena is that she is so dialed into Stefan,” Somerhalder says. “She and Stefan particularly have this bond, and we later figure out in the mythology of the story why that is. But her having this feeling is genuine.” (source)

As Stefan suffers and Silas wreaks havoc, Elena’s kindred connection to Stefan will prove stronger than ever, giving her a deep sense that something is seriously wrong. “When you were in love with someone, even if they’re not in your life you have that connection with them; the love is still there whether it’s romantic or not.” Dobrev says. “When she finds out what he’s been through it’s not easy for her.” (source)

Will all that change now that Stefan has his memories back? It actually seems unlikely that the vamp will be drawn back to his old love just because he remembers her. “There would have been more of a shot of them getting in the sack if he didn’t have his memories,” says Wesley with a laugh. “That’s usually how it works. ‘Let’s forget about everything that’s happened. Let’s get busy.’” (source)

So we learned that Stefan and Elena are destined to be together. Are they finding themselves struggling with that?
Paul: Yes, because I think their love has faded, it’s dissipated, and it’s the only thing… It’s kind of like when you go to a fortune teller and they tell you “You’re going to end up with this person” and you’re like “Really?”. And then you can’t help but in the back of your mind think that the fortune teller might be correct. (source1) (source2)

Now that you’ve lost her, do you think that your character will get a new love interest at some point?
Paul: What makes you think I lost her? I think she’s still obsessed with me. (source)

Candice Accola: To Caroline, Stefan is just a friend and a companion and Elena’s one true love. She wants Elena and Stefan to be together. She does not like Damon. She hates Damon, she thinks Damon is the worst choice for Elena and although she wants her friends to be happy, that’s who down deep in her core, that should be together — Stefan and Elena. (source)

Caroline Dries: Stefan is good. Stefan’s knee-jerk reaction is to do the heroic thing. He can take care of Elena and influence her in the right ways. […] Stefan is a person that she’s going to lean on for advice and wisdom. She trusts him fully. (source)

Julie Plec: Kevin and I talked about the cure the minute we were breaking the series and deciding one day Elena would become a vampire. We were like we need a cure then because she can’t stay a vampire forever. We always knew some version of once we find a cure, and Stefan and Elena will find it together, and then he’ll realize that when you take it you age to the point that you die, so he’ll make her take it not telling her that he’s not going to take it. That was always our plan. (source)

Julie Plec: I know in my mind I felt very strongly that Elena could not and would not separate from Stefan and fall in love with Damon until she was a vampire. […] I didn’t feel comfortable letting her let go of what is pure in her heart, which is Stefan, to explore the darker sides of her impulses until her entire life had been turned inside out. (source)

Is there hope for a legitimate reunion between the duo [Stefan & Elena]?
“Those two are like perpetually a pendulum that swings. There’s really no algorithm,” Paul Wesley says. “I don’t think anything that happens is permanent, so the answer to that question is that I’m sure they’ll work it out in the end.” (source)

Candice Accola: I think it’s really interesting that viewers and fans have had theories to back this relationship [Steroline] even though Stefan and Elena were so madly in love and now they’re all comfortable pairing Stefan and Caroline together, because that would be the ultimate betrayal of a friendship and an ex. (source)

Though Wesley tells us that Stefan has “made peace” with Damon and Elena being friends with benefits, “There are always residual feelings with anyone that you’re ever with romantically.” In other words, if Elena ever decides Stefan’s the guy for her, he’ll be there. (source)

Paul: I think there is always going to be that residual “I’m in love with you” but I think he respects her as a friend, which is very difficult – it’s a very manly thing to do. (source)

“Stefan and Elena morphed into a really soulful friendship when she became a vampire,” Dries explained. “Elena as a human was meant to be with Stefan, but Elena as a vampire was meant to be with Damon.” (source)

Stefan seems kind of cool with Damon and Elena now, yeah?
Paul: I know, it’s so weird! It’s like, weird. I don’t know… I guess sometimes you’re cool with your ex dating your brother, apparently. (source)

Paul: It was this beautiful scene where Stefan takes Elena, and he picks her up and kisses her, and they go on the kitchen counter and things get kinda hot and heavy. But rather than sexualizing it, I decided to make it romantic. I pitched it to the writers – I was like ‘Guys, I think this should be romantic and not sexual,’ and they fell for it. (source)

Is the door still open for those two [Stefan and Elena]?
Paul:I’m telling you, all it takes is one shift in writing. All it takes is one intelligently shifted moment or new storyline to sort of diverge and — boom! — we’re back on the Stefan and Elena train. I have no idea what the writers are doing or planning on doing or if that’s something they’re even interested in, but I wouldn’t eliminate anything from the equation. (source)

Julie Plec: They [Stefan and Caroline] are sharing an experience of having to say goodbye to someone they care about [who] ultimately is Stefan’s true love. (source)

Julie Plec: My cups overflow with Stelena love and alway will. (source)

Out of all the seasons you’ve done, what is your favorite Stelena moment?
Paul: You know, I like this one moment in season 1, when his veins started to come out and he was embarrassed and she was like “no, no, you don’t have to hide from me” and she was touching his face and accepted him for who he is… I really liked that. Season 1 is great. I rewatched recently a few episodes from seasons 1 and 2, and there was some really compelling stuff in the beginning as far as when they first met, like they kind of dragged it a little bit, and I really like that. (source1) (source2)

Wesley also revealed his softer side with his other favorite scene from the CW hit’s run. “When Elena touched Stefan’s face for the first time and he showed her his veins and it was this beautiful moment of opening up to her and him showing her his vampire side,” he spilled of the couple’s tender moment from way back in season one. Oh Wesley, you total Stelena shipper! (source)

Are you Team Stelena or Delena?
Paul: At the end of the day I am biased, and I would say that Stefan and Elena are probably the couple. (source)

Nina: I love The Notebook, and I know an epic love story when I see one, and I felt like Elena and Stefan had an epic love. (source)

Paul: I think that I’m the best choice [for Elena] (source)

Kevin Williamson: Elena was like this walking dead person, she felt dead inside. And along come Stefan, who literally is dead, and looking for a way to come back to life. And these two people, these two souls who were really, you know, out of breath, find each other and learn to breathe again and fall madly in love. And from that, this epic love story was born. (source)

Paul to Candice: My first scene [for the show] was with Elena, walking on the bridge. Sorry, girl. You were my second. (source)

Kevin Williamson: In another universe, if Elena hadn’t left the show in Season 6, we might have had another ending because I am a Stelena ‘shipper, always. (source)

Was this the way you say it all ending, compromises and all, Kevin?
Kevin Williamson: Well, I always thought it would be Stefan and Elena. They were sort of the anchor of the show, but because we lost Elena in Season 6, we couldn’t go back. You know Nina could only come back for one episode – maybe if she had came back for the whole season, we could even have warped back towards that, but you can’t just do it in 42 minutes. (source)

Julie Plec: It was very important that we get to have a beautiful final emotionally romantic moment — not romance in the way that you understand it, but an emotionally romantic moment — between Stefan and Elena. And a goodbye that did them service as a couple that we had loved so much. (source)


  1. I hope that Elena will finally choose one of the Salvatore brothers at the end of season 4 .How many seasons has to take Elena to realize what her feeling are?I really hope to be Stefan because that kind of love does not die from a season to another.PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

    1. I really want Stefan and Elena to go back out she loves him and Damon and her can never be something because we all seen it from season 1 she loves Stefan and he loves her honestly she needs to get that through her head and make a decision

  2. i think there is only stelene because delene is really weird i hope in season 6 they stelene find their ways back to eachother again and be always togeather.
    stelene only forever

  3. What started me watching TVD was this awe consuming love between Stefan Salvatore and Elena Gilbert. The innocents and beauty of that love. As with any relationship there must be challenges for them to over come. When Elena becomes a vampire deep down Stefan knows that even though he has helped others who have been turned he’s too close to Elena and he knows that Damon will be the one that will help her accept who she is now. Although she tells Damon she loves him she has not given him her heart, that will always belong to Stefan. And eventually hopefully that will be sometime in Season 6 her heart will allow that love to surface again. A stronger more mature woman. A woman who accepts herself as she is now and allows that strong love she’s buried so deep in her heart to protect it to surface again. And ready to share a life forever with the man who was unselfish enough with her to allow her to mature and become this strong woman he deeply loves.

  4. I love your site. And I hope while we Stelena fans have watched over the past 2 seasons as Elena has matured and is accept of her life now as a vampire. She will allow the memories of the true love for Stefan that she has safely protected deep in her heart to surface. And the love Stefan and Elena had that drew so many viewers in on Season 1 will once again be only this time ending with marriage that begins forever.

  5. It’s me again. This time my comment is to Julie and Paul. There are viewers wanting Stefan and Caroline to have a tumble. But you can’t let that happen. Lexi was Stefan’s friend for over 100 yrs and that’s what they were strictly friends. Now Caroline is suppose to be Stefan’s friend replacing Lexi. If a sexual relationship happens between Stefan and Caroline … Now the friendship is gone forever !!!!! And that’s a proven fact. Their friendship needs to stay strictly platonic. Just won’t seem right for it to happen between those too.

  6. i’m italian and i used to watch this series until Stefan and Elena stopped their relationship. I really was in love with this series, the first i lovedcause i think that their story is one of the most beautiful stories ever seen in tv and cinema. stefan and elena was something magic, which let milionns of people dream. to stop their relation in that way was terrible, like come back to reality. now i can’t watch it anymore, i wait and hope… for dreaming a bit that this two boys will come back together ….

    1. same here. I always fast forward if it’s Damon-Elena scenes. I hate seeing them happy while Stefan is suffering and heartbroken.

    1. I love Stefan and Elena together!! It was always creepy how Damon would be all over her knowing how much his brother loved her. I love Damon’s character, but not with elena.

  7. Please tell me how to move on from Elena-Stefan love story. 🙁 Though I will never want Stefan be with Elena again not after she slept with Damon the d-bag vampire. I really love Stelena’s chemistry. But Elena became insensitive, selfish vampire. She just forgot what Stefan did for her. Stefan did everything for her – to save her. He sacrificed his own heart and all that. 🙁

  8. I know that some fans think that amnesia is a poor storytelling, but Elena (in the books) has amnesia after becoming a vampire. I think Julie Plec should have used that instead of Elena becoming sirebond to Damon and choosing him over Stefan. Remember the visions Stefan and Elena had in 5×18? It should be Stefan in place of Damon in Seasons 4-6, with Stelena being the endgame, although I wouldn’t want Stefan to turn back into a human and eventually die off as one; after all, it was being a vampire that made him who he is, like Katherine said in 2×01, he’s “stronger, meaner.” He’s boyfriend/husband material (unless the vision version of Stefan in 5×18 isn’t like the real Stefan), confident, experienced, and he’s rare. How many in the TVD world, as well as in real-life, is like him?

    When Silas as Stefan told Damon in 4×19 that Damon only had a continuous one-night-stand-alike relationship with Elena, I don’t think he was entirely trying to get under Damon’s skin to provoke him in order to stab him. It’s true, what he said.

  9. I have watched many soaps and romantic movies/serie. None of them ever touchd me the way elena and stefan’s ship did. when they broke up my heaart was torn apart. they had a real thing going. the writers need to do smthing abt that coz many stopped watching when those two seperated


  10. Can we please get this back? I miss Stelena so much and I hope at the end of the series they do end up together. Thanks for the article, really enjoyed reading it.

  11. I have seen so many movies and series and I really like true love fantasy but tvd broken my myth …I mean first I really like damon and elena together and started shipping them too!! instantly ( I started watching it two months ago) , but NOW I dont know I started rooting for stefan too because.. he care about her so much that he step aside for her ,sacrificed his love…… he really has deeeep feelings for her but so is damon, he is shown he will do anything for her.. .damon has downfalls bz of his character and stefan bz of his morals ( always righteous) which some ppl find boring, so is elena her character is complex too ..it just seems all three complete each other not just two .. …. any endgame happens it will definately torn other one !!!!

  12. I miss Stefan and elena so much. I recently rewatched the series. Am I the only one who is getting sick of how selfish damon is? Damon is her list, Stefan is her love.

  13. Stefan And Elena will always be my endgame. Majority of Fans only wanted Damon and Elena because Ian and Nina dated in real life. And that honestly ruined the show. Stefan and Elenas love story was so beautiful and pure, and the writers/Julie plec ruined it like how can Elena just fall inlove with stefans brother…. Disgusting if you think about it. Still mad. Won’t ever get over it. I only shipped Stefan and Katherine in season 4/5 because I was so mad at the writers for choosing delena. now we have Stefan and Caroline… Common so boring. Candice has romantic chemistry with a lot of characters, and Paul is the LEAST of all of them, hell her and Damon would of been a better match cause at least they had that connection from season 1. Whatever. So mad… Researching season 1 rn, that’s why I’m so heated haha sorry 🙂

  14. Thank you so much, hope u kept it updated.
    I was looking for something like this for a long time , keep up the good work .
    What makes me really sad that this show and this love story had every potential to be remembered as one of the best for generations . How could they do this ?!

  15. I hated the series immediately Elena started dating Demon.. ..i think stefan and elena should get back together cos i guess thats what interests me more in the movie. I mean the fact that stefan nd elena’s live story is pure… .i’d stop watching until someone tells me those two love birds are gon get back together.

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